Abhinaba & Kumkum

We got married on April 17, 2019

Groom & Bride

Love is the first born, loftier than the Gods, the Fathers and men. You O Love, are the eldest of all, althoghter mighty. To you we pay homage! In many forms of goodness, O Love, you show your face. Grant that these forms may penetrate our hearts. – Atharva Veda IX 2.19

Abhinaba Basu

Talkative introvert, technology enthusiast, avid traveler. Bibliophile, loves to read  fictions(specially science fictions) and philosophical books. Raised in Kolkata, but now shifted to Prayagraj for job.

Kumkum Das

Loving, compassionate , nurturing, supportive, inspiring. Teacher by profession, Engineer by Heart. Raised in Bareilly, Uttar Pradesh.

Ceremony

Marriage (Biye), 17th Apr 2019

Biye consists of several rituals like Dadhi Mangal, Ganga Nimantran, Holud Kota and Snan, Briddhi Puja, Bor jatri, Biye etc.

Post Marriage (Basi Biye), 18th Apr 2019

Sindoor Dan, Lajja Bastra, Bidai and Bou Baran Happens in the next day of the marriage. It’s called Basi Biye.

Reception (Bou Bhat), 19th Apr 2019

Finally the marriage will be completed by Bhat Kapor, Lajja Bastro, Gala Dinner and Phul sojja rituals

Location

Reception

Marriage

Love's gift can't be given,
it waits to be accepted

Rabindra Nath Tagore

Rituals

A Bengali Wedding often referred to as ‘Biye’ are an elaborate amalgamation of rituals, which are a beautiful visual treat filled with colors and merriment. All traditions are based on scientific or social basis. Rituals vary from region to region, caste to caste.

Dawn, 17th April, 2019

Dadhi Mangal

The bride and the groom are fed with a mixture made of sweet curd, rice flakes, banana and sweets like sandesh in before sunrise. This is their last meal of the day as they would have to fast until the wedding rituals are complete.

Early Morning, 17th April, 2019

Ganga Nimantran

The family members and close relatives of the bride/groom will move in a procession to a nearby waterbody where they fill a pitcher with water and return. This water would later be used during the snan ritual. 

Morning, 17th April, 2019

Holud Kota and snan ritual

The groom is first smeared with turmeric paste(holud) mixed with Mustard Oil. The groom’s family sends this holud to the brides place with a lot of gifts and sweets called tattwo in decorated trays. Curd, Mustard Oil, Sweets &  Namkeen(designed like peacock/butterfly/fruits), a Big Fish  is a must thing in that particular Tattwo.

Morning, 17th April, 2019

Briddhi Puja

By this ritual the forefathers are invited to be a part of the ceremony and to offer homage to their forefathers by chanting
Sanskrit hymns. This is usually done by male member of the family.

Evening,17th April, 2019

Bor Yatri & Bor Boron

The wedding procession led by the groom proceeds to the wedding venue.The bride’s family welcomes the groom and his wedding party. After arrival Groom change his dress with Potto bastra, new cloth gifted from Bride’s family.

Around 8 PM,17th April, 2019

Saat Paak (On Pidi) & Shuvo Drishti

The groom is brought into the wedding mandap known as Chhadnatolla and an initial puja is performed along with the person who will do the Kanya Sampradan. After that bride enters the mandap and encircles the groom sitting on a small wooden piri, carried by her relatives. Her face is covered with betel leaves. After garlanding one another the bride and the groom are made to look at each other in front of all the assembled invitees.

Around 8 PM,17th April, 2019

Mala Badal

The subho dristi is followed by the ‘mala badal’. The bride still seated on the pidi and kept hoisted by the relatives, exchanges garlands made of mainly tube rose and rose with the groom three times which signifies the couple’s acceptance of each other.

Around 8:15 PM,17th April, 2019

Kanya Sampradan

An elderly member of the bride’s family hands over the bride to the groom.Their hands are tied by a sacred thread and the hands will stay in bounds till the end of rituals.

Around 8:30 PM,17th April, 2019

Yajna and Saat Paak

An elderly member of the bride’s family hands over the bride to the groom.Their hands are tied by a sacred thread and the hands will stay in bounds till the end of rituals.

Around 10 AM,18th April, 2019

Basi Biye

Groom applies Sindoor on the parting of bride’s hair while looking at mirror and he covers her head with a new saree known as the Lajjabastra.After the mantras, they worship the sun.

Around 6 PM,18th April, 2019

Bidaai

Bidaai refers to the departure of the couple from the bride’s place. It is mostly a tearful and emotional event. While departing, the bride keeps throwing handful of rice backwards over her shoulders without looking back. This is how she tries to repay the debt of her family for bringing her up.

Around 7 PM,18th April, 2019

Bodhu Boron

 On the arrival to the groom’s house the bride is welcomed by her mother-in law. An imprint of her foot is taken on a white cloth using lac dye(alta), red in color. After arrival, bride and groom can’t see each other face till next morning and the night is called “KalRatri”

Around 10 AM,19th April, 2019

Bou Bhat

The bride has to cook some dishes and serve the food to the husband and other elders in the family.

Around 11 AM,19th April, 2019

Bhat Kapor

The husband hands over a saree and a plate of food to his wife and pledges to shoulder her responsibility for the rest of his mortal life.

07 PM – 11 PM, 19th April, 2019

Gala Dinner

Groom’s family will host a grand reception in honor of the new wife. Guests from the side of the groom come and join the gala dinner reception in an attempt to know the new member of the family.

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